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8.5.10

Acting Superior to Others is an Empty Endeavor.

On the occasional weekend, I work security for a few clubs in the city.  It's nothing too fancy; you make sure drunken idiots don't harm themselves or others throughout the course of the night.  Last night was no exception.  The drunken idiots came... so we had work to do.

It is definitely an interesting job.  You meet people at their most primal form.  There are your alpha males... either showing off how much money they have (or can borrow) or how muscular they are.  And of course the females... either looking for attention via the lack of clothes being worn or "letting loose" from that stressful week of dealing with "The Man" (work or relationship).

What amazes me is how most of these people feel superior to the ones taking care of them.  And it's not just the guards who get it.  Disrespect to the bartenders, the service staff, the DJ.  Think about this for a minute... these people get all dressed up based on the standards set by someone else... wait in a line like 3rd graders trying to get in... all to get approval to walk through the doorway from some random person they may never come across again.  And they pay to do this.  So they can be inside a completely fabricated party, listening to music they hear on the radio, buying drinks for liquid encouragement or social status, while looking to get with others who are just as dumb.  Every time our guys and gals come in to work, we can't help but laugh.  It's such a ridiculous concept.

Anyway, there are always some club-goers who try to talk down to the bouncers to prove how cool they are to the people around them.  Probably my favorite part of the night.  After all the ridiculousness of trying to get in, you then ridicule the people who just let you in?  Smart move. Often they end up out on the street, usually causing a big scene in the process, yelling out the occasional empty threat as they walk away.

Lesson:  Seeking validation by trying to prove how much more amazing you are to others really gets you nothing.  At best, you attract others with low self-esteem.  At worst, you end up looking like a fool.